What have you heard about sex therapy? There are a lot of myths floating around that keep people from seeking help to achieve true intimacy. One of the funniest is that we require you to have sex in our offices!
Here are a few of the misconceptions about sex therapy and the truth about each one:
Only the Most Difficult Cases Need Professional Help
Sexual difficulties are common, and getting help sooner rather than later is most effective. Do you only go to a dentist when you are in excruciating pain? No. You go as soon as you feel there may be something wrong with your tooth, because you know if you wait, the problem will get worse. Sex therapy is the same. Any concern is important enough for professional help if it gets in the way of a healthy sex life as you define it.
Sex Therapy is Kinky
Sex therapy is a safe place to work through issues (by talking) and take concrete steps to improve intimacy in your relationship. Everyone keeps their clothes on at all times.
When you are given homework, you do it in the privacy of your own home. You may be asked how it went, of course, in order to plan the next part of treatment, but there are no reenactments.
Seeing a Therapist is the End of the Line
Getting sex therapy doesn’t mean your relationship is over. In fact, it usually means you care enough about each other to work on this critical part of your union.
All kinds of physical, mental, emotional and psychological problems can contribute to sexual dysfunctions such as desire and arousal difficulties, premature ejaculation, erectile dysfunction, low libido or lack of sexual confidence.
Why continue to suffer when the source(s) of your issue(s) can be found and addressed by a specially-trained professional? Seeking help can be the start of a new, more fulfilling chapter in your relationship or marriage.
It is Embarrassing to Talk about Intimacy with a Stranger
Most people feel some anxiety before seeing a sex therapist, but there is no issue you can bring to a good sexual therapist that he or she has not seen before. You needn’t worry about being embarrassed, or embarrassing the therapist. This is what we do day in and day out. We discuss painful intercourse, out of control sexual behavior, infidelity and sexual anxiety / trauma.
We are trained in how to create a comfortable environment for talking about sensitive issues, and you only share what you want to share. But many of my clients are surprised to find out how normal their “secret” is. Often, having the courage to speak your worry out loud to an unbiased expert is a relief in and of itself.
There is, unfortunately, still a social stigma to seeking help with sexual health. But this aspect of your health is no different from any other. To reach your full potential and have a satisfying love relationship, sex is sometimes a barrier requiring professional help. Just as you would go to a mental health counselor for depression or an orthopedist for a broken leg, it make sense to see a sex therapist for sexual concerns.
Give Sex Therapy A Try
Myths abound, but listening to them will not solve your sexual problem. If you have a concern, please contact me. An initial session may help determine whether sex therapy is right for you.