In most human endeavors, preparation is key to success. Intimacy is no different. Foreplay, or sexual touching, flirting and other activities leading to intercourse, is often dismissed as an unimportant waste of time before the ‘main event.’ But nothing could be further from the truth....
Sometimes people seek out a sex therapist because they want to address uncomfortable patterns in their sex life. For example, they may feel numb during sex, lose interest in partners after one sexual encounter, or feel unable to give or receive love through sex. Others...
After being with one person for years or even decades, it can be daunting to re-enter the dating pool. Every split takes two, so it is useful after a break-up to reflect, mourn the loss, and think about what you could do differently in your...
Sexual violence is a violation of our right to make choices about our bodies, and can change our relationship to our own sexuality. It is normal to have a range of symptoms after trauma. Common ones include: Avoiding sex or approaching it as an obligation...
An orgasm is an intense feeling of pleasure and release of tension, with or without involuntary, rhythmic contractions of the pelvic floor muscles. It is the feeling of being “spent.” If you are unable to reach orgasm after a reasonable amount of stimulation, and this...
Research says the average couple has sex about once a week. But there is no “normal” frequency. The right amount of sex is the amount that is right for the two of you. However, ‘no sex ever’ can be a problem, especially if one member...
What is sexual health and why is it important? The World Health Organization describes it as follows: Sexual health is a state of physical, mental and social well-being in relation to sexuality. It requires a positive and respectful approach to sexuality and sexual relationships, as...
Sharing your sexual history with your partner can enhance the relationship if it is done right. Here are my thoughts regarding what to share, what to keep to yourself, and what to expect from the conversation. Keeping it Non-Judgmental Each of you may have things...
One of the biggest challenges in love relationships is when the desire for sex is much higher in one person than the other. But there are ways to address this common issue. If both of you are willing to make an effort to understand what...
Sex and trust are intrinsically linked. That’s why infidelity is one of the most difficult marital problems to overcome. A lack of trust reduces desire, and makes it harder to be vulnerable or physically or emotionally “naked.” When someone is unfaithful, trust has been broken and...